Have you lost a loved one to suicide?



This week I came across a special lady who lost a friend to suicide.

Her friendship was a gift of light that she gave, but it was not enough to save the person.  

It is painful to watch her struggle with feelings of guilt. I have a family member who attempted suicide 5 times. Suicide is a battle that those left behind continue to fight long after the person has left. The “what if” questions are a relentless torture that robs you of your joy. 

Find help. Reach out to a support group. Process your feelings before they become a trap to you. 

This photo by Engin Akyurt really reminded me of how we can get trapped by the bondage of other people’s emotions. 

Do not be afraid to reach out to others after a suicide.  Your story may help someone to find healing as you journey together. 

In my second book of The Chronicles of Nadine, I write about the journey of despair and hopelessness that can trap the soul. 

http://www.sadag.org/ is the Depression and Anxiety group.in SA. Find one in your area.

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