What is holding you back?
Have you ever been confronted with the need to change, but you do nothing?
Even if you know that the change is in your best interests. The fear of change or changing things is called Metathesiophobia. Psychologists often link it with Tropophobia which is the fear of moving.
When we are children, we are often fearless. But as experience mounts, our fears grow, and sometimes trap us. This is when that we begin to compromise our dreams and hopes for the future. Our fear of moving traps us in lives of mediocrity.
In the movie Night at the Museum the wax model of Teddy Roosevelt tells Larry Daley,” Some men are born great, and some men have greatness thrust upon them.” It is in times of turmoil that many seemingly ordinary people rise to greater heights than they ever imagined. This was true for Larry Dayley, as it is for Nadine, in the Last of the Silver Wings.
Having skills does not make us heroes. Even villains have skills. Sometimes I believe it is the absence of knowledge that makes us heroes because we have not yet been contaminated by fear. That is why many older readers enjoy Young Adult novels. These books transport the reader to that special in-between phase of being a fearless child and having adult experiences. I love the contrast that Nadine has in the Chronicles of Nadine. She has an obstinate nature that keeps her pushing forward, but she also has those moments of fear. What drives her to change is the belief that her family has in her and that defiance of anything that tries to control her. Many times in our lives we don’t want to be controlled, but we end up allowing our fears to control us.
One thing that I have learned during lock down is that we are the authors of our own life patterns, our ways of viewing the world and ways of doing things. While our environments do mould us, there always comes a moment of choice when we choose our response. This is much like the heroes in our books. They have lived enough to form patterns, but then the unexpected happens which drives them to push aside that fear of change because the changes have already arrived and it is now a sink or swim moment.
Even if you know that the change is in your best interests. The fear of change or changing things is called Metathesiophobia. Psychologists often link it with Tropophobia which is the fear of moving.
When we are children, we are often fearless. But as experience mounts, our fears grow, and sometimes trap us. This is when that we begin to compromise our dreams and hopes for the future. Our fear of moving traps us in lives of mediocrity.
In the movie Night at the Museum the wax model of Teddy Roosevelt tells Larry Daley,” Some men are born great, and some men have greatness thrust upon them.” It is in times of turmoil that many seemingly ordinary people rise to greater heights than they ever imagined. This was true for Larry Dayley, as it is for Nadine, in the Last of the Silver Wings.
Having skills does not make us heroes. Even villains have skills. Sometimes I believe it is the absence of knowledge that makes us heroes because we have not yet been contaminated by fear. That is why many older readers enjoy Young Adult novels. These books transport the reader to that special in-between phase of being a fearless child and having adult experiences. I love the contrast that Nadine has in the Chronicles of Nadine. She has an obstinate nature that keeps her pushing forward, but she also has those moments of fear. What drives her to change is the belief that her family has in her and that defiance of anything that tries to control her. Many times in our lives we don’t want to be controlled, but we end up allowing our fears to control us.
One thing that I have learned during lock down is that we are the authors of our own life patterns, our ways of viewing the world and ways of doing things. While our environments do mould us, there always comes a moment of choice when we choose our response. This is much like the heroes in our books. They have lived enough to form patterns, but then the unexpected happens which drives them to push aside that fear of change because the changes have already arrived and it is now a sink or swim moment.
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